SOME LESSONS WE'VE LEARNED:
1. Be patient and flexible -- and
have a good sense of humor. We've crossed bridges where the phone
line has gone dead a half dozen times. Just call again and laugh
about it. It makes you appreciate how special it is that your voice
can be heard a world away.
2. We have found the bridges more
meaningful if you keep the group size smaller than larger (between 6
and 12 people). Call every few months and consider establishing pen
pal relationships.
3. Be prepared for the bridge. Come
with questions. Come with things to say about yourself. Write down
what you want to say and ask before the call begins! In addition, it
is very special when you bring something special to share: a song sung
or played on the guitar or flute. When those you're calling prepare
something special, or make the effort to speak in your language,
applaud heartily their efforts!
4. Thoroughly check out the equipment
you will be using! Further, if you are using a calling card, have a
second calling card available from another company in case the first
card doesn't work for some reason. If you are using Skype, also have
a regular phone and calling card ready in case the Skype connection is
poor.
5. Check time zones carefully and be
sure everyone knows when the call is to take place. Be flexible. If
there is a ten or more hour time difference, one side will have to get
up earlier in the morning, and the other side will have to stay up a
little later.
6. Learn some phrases to say if
you're calling a country that speaks a language different from your
own. Your efforts will leave a deep impression. Even more, it's fun
to speak another language!
7. Be sensitive to the situation of
others. Be unselfish. Can you afford to place the call more easily
than those you're calling? If so, then be willing to host the call
each time. Think about what you want to say or ask. Could it
inadvertantly be misunderstood? Making friends "long distance" takes
thoughtfulness, consideration, and humility. It should help you look
with new eyes not only at your world, but at yourself as well.
HOW TO FIND PEOPLE TO
CALL:
1. Work through friends. If you know
someone in your community who is from another country, ask that person
if he or she has friends or relatives in the country they came from
that would help organize a bridge. Your local high school undoubtedly
has language teachers that very likely have friends overseas. Every
phone bridge we've built has been planned with the help of a close
friend or through friends of friends. There needs to be some "known"
factor so that trust can be established from the start and so that the
logistics of planning the bridge can be done without any inadvertent
misunderstandings.
2. Match up interests. The most
obvious is to let students "go to school" in a classroom around the
world and learn about school life there. But you can also organize
meaningful bridges between mothers or grandmothers talking about
family; between musicians talking about their love of music; between
people of similar professions, etc.
Do you have questions? Can we help? If
so, please e-mail us at:
books@worldpath.net